As a sex educator, I find that I do a lot less eye-opening education about theory and psychosociology than I do myth-busting misconceptions about basic facts of anatomy and physiology. Or — you know — adequate comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-based sexuality education on a national scale, but I gave up Idealism years ago. So let me put my Realist hat on to help you navigate through the murky waters of these four myths about virginity. Does this mean that they are forever virgins? Does manual or digital sex count?
The hymen is the stuff of legend and lore in many cultures, the treasured prize a woman gives her husband on their wedding night. People often do not know what it looks like or what really happens to it when virginity is lost. For example, some of my teen patients have questions about a partner male or female inserting a finger into a vagina. If a girl uses a tampon does that cause her to lose her virginity? If she falls off her bike, might that affect her hymen, and thus her virginity? Who loses their virginity to a bicycle? Well, it depends on how you define virginity, and what you know about hymens.
The hymen is a thin membrane covering the vaginal opening. It consists of a connective tissue as well as muscle fibers with blood vessels and nerve endings. The hymen is easy to detect. It usually lies no further than 0. The appearance and structure of the hymen are as individual as body shape or hair color.
Despite the literature's focus on hetero sexual initiation, we know little about the degree to which young people are satisfied by their first vaginal intercourse experience, let alone the factors that predict satisfaction. We analyzed data from a cross-sectional survey of non-Hispanic White and Black year old respondents from four university campuses. Respondents were asked to rate the degree to which their first vaginal intercourse was physiologically and psychologically satisfying.