So why then do long-term partners who choose to sleep in different beds still elicit sad, worried, or judgmental responses? There are plenty of reasons why bed sharing is the norm. Some people, I presume, really do love prolonged spooning despite its obvious pitfalls. Others face rising rents in expensive cities and have conveniently found that falling in love very often leads to the money-saving step of cohabitation in a single bedroom. In addition, the very concept of marriage as being synonymous with love and an undying desire to be together is fairly new.
When my boyfriend and I moved in together, we decided to rent a two-bedroom apartment so that each of us could have our own room. You each have your own space. No matter how much you love each other, sometimes you just need your own personal area to read, draw, or just decompress. It works well for different sleep schedules. It sucks to get comfy and doze off and then be woken up by your partner crawling into bed after an unplanned Netflix binge or a late shift at work. When you sleep in separate rooms, this ceases to be a problem— both of you can go to sleep whenever you want without worrying about waking the other person up.
Keeping a marriage strong takes work. My wife and I do all the things that are commonly prescribed: we eat dinner together, go on weekly date nights, and take trips without the kids. We also do one thing that might raise eyebrows. I believe that our sleeping arrangements are a big contributing factor. People are understandably skeptical.
You found another person with a passport that wants to date you. Not only that, but you think they are the best thing since sliced bread: they look good and kiss even better. Anything resembling dating and would share the room. So her being in a different room would be awkward, because I would want to be looking out for her. Now as far as what occurs within the room physically, I would talk about it in advance so there are clear expectations.